Woh 4 log

Hello, dear readers!

Thank you! for your overwhelming response to ‘Sharmaji ka ladka’. So, now  FlipSide presents you the side of 'four individuals' whose opinions or fear of what the opinions would be, create a turmoil in every household. (Chaar log kya kahenge!!??)

 We are the 'chaar log'

No,not these ones.

But yes, the music that has hit your mind is right even in our case :0

We know how much you fear our judgement but we don't understand why you do so!

Yes, we do discuss about your job, your family, your friends; in a nutshell, your life. We love gossiping. We have talks about your life but we are not concerned about it. To be honest we have nothing to do with your life and your decisions. 

As one needs masala in tea to make it more delicious, we need gossips to spice up our talks.

We have a perfect recipe of judging you along with a garnishing of hypocrisy. The opinions that we have, are very polar, it is either this or that, either it is black or it is white. It can't be grey! Have you heard about the art of generalization? We have mastered it.

We have a list of predictions made about you. When you take a decision, we gamble on our predictions about the ‘way’ you might fail. Whenever, one thinks to do something out of the box; we presume he/she will fail. This mostly happens because we have never witnessed such divergent stuff before.

And of course, we aren't acquainted about you. But you and your family are acquainted. Hence, don't fall prey to words spoken by us. Read your subconscious mind, not our discussion forum.

The hilarious part is that if you succeed, we will gamble on our theories that how we already knew that this shall happen. If you fail, we knew it. If you succeed, we knew it.

 

       

(Aree humme toh pehle se pata tha..!)

The discomposure caused by our thoughts in your life is immense. Our thoughts hamper so many lives in some or the other sense. From deciding life partner to deciding the wedding food menu, people are anxious about our thoughts. 

               

(Sweet mei gulab jamun nahi diye toh chaar log kya kahenge...;( )

We don't keep chanting about your life. Also, we have people other than you to discuss about:)) Don't you think there needs to be a variety of spices to spice up our gossip? 

Never ruin a decision which will make a difference in the upcoming decades of your life, fearing or considering our few minutes talk. 

The fact is we talk, we discuss and then we leave it! You are the topic of our discussion for just a trivial amount of time. After that we get back to living our life.

(Khair, humme kya karna hai…)

We are present in the society, this fact cannot be denied. All you can do is, try not to give much importance to what we think about you, think about yourself and your beloved ones. We genuinely don’t care about you as much as you care about our opinion.

We are char log,

Don't be like us :)

So,now next time anyone says ‘Chaar log kya kahenge?’; You have the answer. :)

Sharmaji ka ladka

Hello readers!

I'm Sharmaji's son. Yes! you guessed it right, the hyped hypothetical figure which every Indian child is expected to be like.

Today I'm presenting you my side of the story. I have always been the first bencher. The calm, intelligent and all-rounder kid. I was extremely good at academics back in school. I was good at sports. I was good at cultural activities. I was good at art. Unbelievable, right? That's why I have stated hypothetical figure :) 

 

I used to be first in everything, right from exams to a running race! But my story doesn't end here rather it begins from here.The struggle of ALWAYS being the best.

 I remember an incident when I secured fifth position in a competition. I was shattered, I hated myself. Soon, I realized being fifth was like a dream come true for many. But no I'm Sharmaji's son, I'm perfect, and what about the people who considered me as the winner before the results were out. "Who made a mistake, me or they?", I thought to myself.

In the challenges thrown by life, don't I have a right to fail at least once? This has been my biggest dilemma.

When others grow from 'worst to bad' they are praised. But if I fall from 'best to better' it is a nightmare for me and a topic of discussion for others. 

People strive to achieve it, but I strive to MAINTAIN it. (Sharmaji ka ladka hi fail hogya toh usse kisse compare karenge..)

Nowadays, I find that my aspiration to be someone are projected against your aspiration to be someone else.(Isliye itni gaaliya padti hai shayad mujhe! :()                      

    

You should have expectations from yourself. But never let this spark burn you! It is a true saying that "Aim for the stars, if you fail, you'll land on the moon."

I would like to add something to it; we can all aim for the stars, if we fail, we'll land on the moon, if we fail to land on the moon, we'll land on Mount Everest, if we fail to land on Mount Everest, we'll land on a Skyscraper and if we miss the Skyscraper, we'll end up landing on the Roof-top of our House. Then, we'll get down and start all over again until we land on the stars.

I would say that, 'All of us are Sharmaji ka ladka for someone else in some or the other field.'

 

We are compared to somebody for something, somebody else is compared with us for something else. This cycle continues.And lastly,it is fine if we lose sometimes in our respective fields of excellence.

 

 

Inferiority Complex

 I don't think I'm worthy enough..! Nobody loves me..He is so lucky and look at me..She is such a successful person and on the other hand is me.I wish even I would.....(whatever comes to your mind):(

 Once water and juice were kept side by side. Water thought to itself, "Juice has got such a lovely colour and taste. And here I am completely tasteless and colourless. May be that's the reason people serve their guests juice. I'm not desirable enough."                                                                               

The guests arrived and were served with some juice. They humbly refused and asked for a glass of water as they were very thirsty. (Juice konsa bhi ho….pyass toh panni se hi bhujhti hai).

The phase of mind 'water' was in is inferiority complex. The dubiety of belongingness, acceptance, admiration and self-worthiness is root of inferiority.

As a child we are always special and beautiful for our parents. But as we grow, we face the world. We step out of the shell of our parents' warmth. People around us unwillingly or at times willing make us feel inferior. Many a time when people pass a negative remark about us that makes us feel low, we keep quiet. Gradually, we start accepting those remarks, we try to convince our mind that we are so and then blame ourselves why are we so? Funny, isn't it?

        

Also, if people who were once below us in some or other hierarchy in life, but now stand above us, we have to accept it and not be conscious facing them.

Today, we feel inferior about our relationship status on watching the perfect social media posts or pictures regarding relationship. We question our professional life when we find out our acquaintance has got the job we had always dreamed of. We feel inferior about our looks, physique, personality. Slowly, a little part of our mind sink in the darkness of hopelessness. 

To overcome this darkness, we have to be patient and most importantly believe ourselves (if we don't believe ourselves why will others!). If we are not happy with our better side, no one else will observe it.  

Being patient doesn’t mean, wait for right things to happen. Make right things happen or make whatever happens, right for yourself.(Kyoni zindagi chalti nahi hai, chalani padti hai dost!:))